Source: http://www.bukisa.com Posted Dec 04, 2009 by rock-salt
Marriage. It’s something we all have differing views on. Some see it as the answer to a fulfilled life, others see it as a death sentence. I, in my cynical opinion, believe the latter.
First, let’s get this straight- I am not a child of a broken home, neither are any of my close friends, and there is only one divorce I know of in my family. This shows that I am not biased in my views on the subject, and do not have outside influences to shape my opinion. These are MY thoughts, which my mother has constantly attempted to alter. But I’m stubborn. And I am now going to force my beliefs on you.
Firstly- what does marriage even mean? It used to mean that you would spend the rest of your life with someone, someone whom you loved and trusted. However, nowadays 1 in 2 marriages end in divorce, squashing that definition. In fact, many adults marry two or even three times. This, to me, ruins the idea. Young girls often dream about their wedding day, but what they are dreaming of is the pretty dress, the dancing, the guests, and having all eyes on them. What they are not dreaming of is the reality of the death sentence you sign on that day- being stuck with the same person day in, day out, making their dinner (because that’s what a good wife would do), putting up with the in-laws and facing a messy divorce. These are the realities of marriage. Once the ceremony is over, effectively, so is your life.
In-laws. The people you can always trust to be judgemental and spiteful. They are another reason you should never get married. My mother has never gotten on with my dad’s mother (possibly because she’s Satan) and it often puts a strain on their relationship. It also makes mum feel like crap because that bitch is always horrible to her, AND she has to put up with it all the time. I had my own dose of this recently, when I found out that my boyfriends mother hates me. Yup, she announced it to a room full of people, including his ex’s stepmother. She then went on to tell my mother the same thing. Lovely woman, Shelley.
In case you didn’t know already, divorce costs one hell of a lot. There’s the lawyers to pay, child support and custody battles (obviously that’s only if you have children, another thing the world could do without). It also takes a lot of time and effort. It’s so much easier to send a text saying ‘UR DUMPD’ to your boyfriend than go through all the ins and outs of divorce with your husband. (Although obviously that’s something I would NEVER do…. ish)
So why do people marry? Love. Simply, love makes them blind. However, it has actually been proven that over a period of time the effects of love fade. Honestly. You may fall in love in you twenties, but chances are by the time you’re fifty, this has worn off. This is why so many couples who have been married a long time shock everyone by getting a divorce. Yes, they were so in love, but the effects fade, and the feelings run dry. Relationships run a natural course. Some of these courses are longer that others because of obstacles (such as falling in love) but it’s a cycle. Every relationship ends. It may not end in divorce, but it often ends in the heart.
There are many people in partnerships, doing everything a married couple would do (living together, sharing a mortgage, arguing about whose turn it is to feed the cat, and why he can’t bloody remember to put the toilet seat down) yet they do not feel the need to have that little piece of paper stating that they have made a commitment to each other. Why? Because they already know they have made a commitment, and don’t feel the need to spend thousands of dollars on a lavish ceremony to prove it. This is far more intelligent, as they do not waste money on either a wedding or a divorce, and if they want to split, they can do so without lawyers (or through a text message).
Overall, what I hope to have communicated it that marriage is stupid and you’d be better off gauging your eyeballs out with a fork. |
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